Delta Man: 30
I met two former hipster couples this last week who are around 30 and starting to get serious about life. They still have some of the clothes and tats from the lifestyle, and a few of the attitudes, but the perpetual adolescence is fading. So what’s the big difference? After years of aimlessness they finally focused in on real jobs and careers, with one couple talking of children. It’s better late than never to grow up. I spent most of my 20s just screwing around, but at least I had enough sense to keep a career going. If you are approaching 30 it’s time to grow up and be a man, and not a man-child.
If you need a checklist here you go:
Steady work and a career with real goals
Responsible with money (regular bill paying, paying off debts and reducing debt, saving money)
Buying a home and not renting
Starting a family
Boys don’t do these things, men do. It’s hard, mostly thankless work, but you’ll be better for it.
Lets put ourselves in the body and mind of young men.
I have a few young men who work for me at the bar and a few more I ride with. They see customers come and go and of course have witnessed what women do in marriages and with their children. Often enough from their own mothers.
Many of these young men drift through life, but not all. The mentally engaged young men and the drifters alike compare what they observe around them. Compare my life to It’s hard, mostly thankless work, but you’ll be better for it…. Which road will those young men choose? What happens if a young man sets out to duplicate my lifestyle and fails? Well he fails, and chances are he still had a pretty good time. He’s been there, done that and has had a lot of positive experiences with the good and the bad (remember I have failed in more endeavors then I have succeed, I reckon that is true for the most of men) What happens if a man tries the Steady work and a career with real goals; Responsible with money (regular bill paying, paying off debts and reducing debt, saving money; Buying a home and not renting; Starting a family…. and fails? Child support, alimony, maybe for life and the unaccountable mental and emotional hardships. The price of failure is much higher for the TradCon plan then the MGTOW plan. In fact, failure in the MGTOW plan often leads to bigger and better things. Failure in the TradCon plan? Adds misery to misery
TradCons need a better marketing plan.
It is difficult to sell “hard, mostly thankless work,” with “but you’ll be better for it.”
While that is true for many of life’s trails and tribulations its difficult to see where suffering in marriage does anything but beat down decent men
Tradcons are not competing against me and my version of going my own way/ refusing to marry. They are competing against every man going his own way and living a good life. I have a goodly number of MGTOW friends. I think its more natural for vets to go their own way, probably because we have a higher then normal divorce rate, know a goodly number of men with unfaithful wives and what not. They all live great, masculine lives. Some guys have bikes and do a little hunting, some guys do a lot of hunting and ride a little on the side. One friend has a small homestead, another restores muscle cars and sells them, another crafts award winning beer. He also has a Mustang and a Harley
These are the men and the lives who “advertise” MGTOW. To counter that TradCons need a better marketing campaign.