As men we are the sum total of our individual and personal set of assets and liabilities, some of which is beyond our control. As men, we must be aware of both our assets and liabilities. To get the most out of life we need to know how to play up our assets to offset our liabilities
Being short is a liability for men. Professionally, taller men enjoy a halo effect and research points to taller men earning more money based of perceptions they are better leaders, smarter, more competent etc then shorter men. There are more women and minority Fortune 500 CEO’s then there are CEO ‘s under 5 foot 9 inches.
Being short is a liability for men socially as well. Chicks dig tall dudes. This has also been well researched, with taller men being percivcved as better looking and more masculine. I don’t recall the details, but OK cupid had a thing where they played with a man’s height and income to see how that would effect women’s interests in him. Same photo of the same dude…. he needed to make 3 or 4 times more money at 5 foot 9 then he did at 6 foot 2 to be semi equally attractive to women.
Now I don’t write that to discourage us short dudes. Reality is reality and we need to deal in it. And the 1st thing to understand is being short is a liability, and there isn’t much you can do about it. Directly. Technically, the average height for White men is 5 foot 9. Socially, especially with women, you are a short dude if you are under 6 foot. The father away you are from 6 foot, the more of a liability being short becomes
We can offset being short indirectly and I promise you brothers that’s enough. On top of that, only 15% of men are 6 foot or taller, so lots of girls are going to be willing to date men who aren’t tall. Yeah…. I know sure does seem like your her second or third choice and I get that can hurt down deep for more sensitive, less confident men but who gives a fuck? Is she your 1st Choice? Odds are your 1st dream girl moved out of your life before Jr high. And frankly, when your frame is strong, she will be there, in the moment, absorbed with you
To figure out how to offset being short, we need reliable battlefield intelligence of the tactical sort. Why do chicks dig tall dudes? In a word, dominance. They are women so they cannot come outright and say it, but that’s what it boils down to. Tall men are perceived to be more alpha, more dominant. Tall men make them feel safe, feel more feminine and what not. They’ll throw out lines about wearing high heels, don’t want short creepy guys eye humping their tits…. look if you are sensitive about being short, never read what women say about short men. All most all women are mean, nasty and down right savage bitches. That comes to the forefront when they are talking about what they don’t like in men.
So, as in most areas of life, the answer to our short guy liability is be more alpha…. but be careful. Short men don’t get any halo effect breaks and women are quick to pick up imaginary faults with men. In this case, most women already accuse short men of having bad attitudes. Practice, practice practice interacting with people. The dude in line with you at the bank, the girl bringing you lunch at the diner. Read up on soical skills and practive
You will be shit test more; good. Gives you more opportunities to establish frame. Never give the impression being short fucks with your head space and timing. If she wants to wear heels and towers over you, just say “Daddy likes” and lear at her legs. Or next the bitch.
Clothing makes the man. Any flaw in your physical body will be judged more harshly and clothes are not designed to look good on short dudes. I’m 5 foot 7’ish and 230 pounds. Nothing was designed to look good or fit well for me or us. Soooooo be careful about the clothes you buy. Put more emphasis on fit, get things tailored, don’t carry around extra body flab. Small details add up
I am muscular…. a lot of girls are going to see a short guy with 18inch guns and dismiss you as having a napoleon complex. Or think the same sort of thing if you drive a fast car or luxury sedan. My thoughts on this is….. fuckem. Hardcore heightist are never going to be into you. I mean if being short bugs you, never let the world see that, but that applies to anything you are touchy about. A good strong frame should keep the false short man syndrome accusations at bay. If you are touchy about your height, like it regularly bugs you, fix your head space my man
Fix your body language. Stand tall, relaxed and proud, never fold into yourself. Tons of books on the topic, pick a couple, read, learn, practice
Don’t do the online dating thing. Or if you do, limit your efforts. Girls are way picky online. Online all they think about is their ideal man. You have way more chances to overcome being short when you are there in person. with online dating, don’t read profiles, look at photos and send the same message over and over again… I would send “hey! You look fun(/ cute etc), ready to rob an armored car together then ride off into the sunset on my Harley?” Online dating is something to do while your in line at a grocery store. Don’t invest much time in it
Frame is everyfuckingthing. Everything. Most folks think I am taller. Part of that is body language, part of that is Frame. If you have a strong frame, the more you can have your own, homemade halo effect. How do you build frame? You overcome challenges, physical, mental and emotionally high risk challenges, learn new skills, become a small time show off and show off your new skill set
As your frame grows, you’ll have more depth of experiences to drive your conversations. You will began to naturally project your strength, confidence and soical dominance and it’s that dominant frame women want to submit to