All your options suck? Get the fuck out of Dodge

“Every normal man must be tempted, at times, to spit upon his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats.” H. L. Mencken

The world is against you and no one gives a fuck. No one. Platitudes are worthless.  Deeds not words. If they are not helping you pay your bills, lying in court or tampering with evidence on your behalf they don’t care.

Not only does no one give a fuck, the full, hard power of the state and the full informal power of society is aginst you and all they care is about your ability to cough up cash and your willingness to submit.

The goverment wants your money and submission. Fuck you pay me. Society and your family wants your submission. “That sucks Johny but We’re here for you. Be a good boy, work extra hard and it will work out”.

Fuck that shit.

You do have options, including leaving and never returning. That is a monster of a decision with ramifications you can’t predict but there are things you can predict and plan for.

Most recently I went through this with a friend of mine. His buiness tanked, then came years of unemployment/ underemployment. He owed serious money from the buiness crashing. The IRS was the most forgiving but the courts refused to reduce his alimony….$1400 a month….  wouldn’t reduce it and attempted to force him to pay the full amount he was behind on. Even for the year he made 1/3 of his typical take home

There was no way for him to do that and save for his dotage.

He bailed.

He didn’t leave in a huff. No grand exit, no rants. No warnings. Just planing, opsec and execution.

In some regards this was an easy transition for him. He’s been overseas before. Which gave him 2 advantages. #1 he knew what he was getting into. Selling his shit to go on a short term contract wasnt outside his normal behaviour. His kids are adults, he’s a tough fucker in the stoic sense and he had an easy time finding work. The world over wants to hire American aviation mechanics.

Passport, aviation worked lined up overseas, new home scouted out with a full understanding of what was required to get citizenship and a passport in his new homeland, plans confirmed with lawyers in his new homeland etc etc

Down range he went. He kept making those payments for 3 years until he qualified for residency and a passport then radio silence, as far as his ex wife and the courts are concerned.

Freedom and a future but at a cost. He’ll see his kids and grandkids maybe twice a year for the rest of his life but he’s free to start over,  grow old comfortably and not have to work 60-70 hours a week while his body fails. Free in the sense that the 1st 30% of his income doesn’t go to a government that failed to protect his rights and half his take home pay no longer goes to a woman who hates him.

It’s a good’ish life. At least he’s a lot less angry, worries a lot less about his future, his old age etc etc. He has a future. One where he can make plans and build toward something. One where he can stop working in 7 more years. He works in one nation, is investing and building a life in the other. He has a small villa, a 1/4 of the mile from a beach full of flounder. The local wine is awesome, the local beer is ok and the bird hunting is decent. He has a decent enough girlfriend and a motorcycle where he works.

It’s solitary life. He is learning the local language,two of them,  but doesn’t know much and only spends 4 weeks a year at his home He went from seeing his kids and grandkids 5 times a week to twice a year. But it’s life on his terms

Frankly most men won’t have the balls for it. Way I reckon things, no matter how you define it, some part of being an alpha male is the willingness to act on your own behalf.  It’s an apex alpha decision with apex alpha results. The tricks and the hoes won’t be happy.

My friend is a criminal. Or will be before too lomg. Contempt of court. Not that they are looking for him but a judge can put him in jail and leave him in jail until he pays the full amount. One dude did 14 years for not ponying up 2.5 million in a civil case. Most Westren nations will help America enforce alimony. At least 17 nations will send you back to america so the goverment can jail ypu for not paying child support.  Dippinng out with your kids in tow is kidnapping.

It’s a serious decision with serious results

You will be giving up things you cannot comperhend. You will be adopting a new lifestyle. One that is radically different from your current life. Different foods, different views on right and wrong. The local law will be more draconian and more lax all at the same time. Different ideas of time management. Different views on medical care…. that list of different is damn near endless.

You need a plan.

Number one is a way to make cash. Money is the most flexible, most useful tool in the world. Or you need the cash to keep you going. To many variables to get into but the guys I know who have dipped out like this did some version of being a land lord while working a job but you need an income stream the courts here stateside can’t get to. Then when they got to whatever age they applied for their pensions and what have you. So far none of them have been denied or had anything garnished.

You need a place to go and this requires an honest assessment of your legal situation, research and lawyers. Finding a lawyer stateside to help is risky. The more complicated your legal situation the fewer options you will have.  These complications will dictate where you can live, work and travel too.

Do your interwebz research then contact lawyers in the places that fit your needs.

You need balls and determination but more then anything you need an honest assessment of situation and yourself. There is no going back. You have to know what you can do, what you cannot do. What you are willing to do. What you are not willing to do. What you are willing to loose. What you are willing to suffer. What you are not willing to loose or suffer.

 

64 thoughts on “All your options suck? Get the fuck out of Dodge

  1. h0neyc0mb

    Having been an ExPat .. I’d do it again. Though, most have never entertained the idea .. so it’s never an option they explore.

    If more folks .. like TonsPlace .. talk about it as an option .. I believe more would consider it ..

    Still, that number will always be low. Americans are a tim-ed bunch of lazy whiners .. not doers.

    Once again, it is the doers that make the required changes and develop the path followed by others.

    Here is to the “DOERS” .. cheers!

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    1. SFC Ton Post author

      Life is easy here and most folks have drank the koolaide

      Dipping out for a few years is easy compared to walking away from your home, family and what not knowing you’ll never return, never see your kin etc etc

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      1. h0neyc0mb

        True .. there will always be a pull trying to bring you home.

        Almost all do .. and that knowledge (re: living abroad) doesn’t leave you .. and it’s always drawing you back over-sea’s.

        It’s a tug-a-war that never ceases.

      2. SFC Ton Post author

        LOL I have two bolt holes overseas. One is a little tiny condo, but gets us all passports etc etc and the other is about 3 feet away from where My friend has his villa. That’s where I would take my kin if they were willing. Intercoastal NC is dang near paradise but bad times are coming and I would just assume my kin be somewhere else.

    2. SFC Ton Post author

      But I have almost always had certain trigger points where I would walk as soon as X occurred.

      I would still like for my whole family to expat. Well my son and his sept follow us. Would be great of my daughter etc all would follow as well but I am not her owner these days

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  2. Ame

    i’ve been doing some form of that most of my life. i mentioned this to my Oldest, and she nodded and said, “Yes. I know.” my kids know that severe choices have severe costs, but sometimes that cost is worth it. one seemingly mild example, compared to the OP, when their dad died he had left everything to his parents and brother, all three of whom despise me, seethingly hate me. they had told our girls that their dad set apart money for them for college, if they’ll let them know. both my girls have silently rejected that. there’d be a cost involved. his parents always have strings attached. rather, my Oldest is working her way thru college business classes, one class at a time, and paying as she goes, living at home, etc.

    send your friend a virtual hug from me. when you get to living that life you worked hard for, sacrificed for, sometimes you have time to wonder . . . i’m having to learn to be kind and forgiving to my younger self :).

    very glad to see you writing again … to hear you’re riding as much as you are … most especially happy for your kids and grandkids and girls that they have you 🙂

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    1. SFC Ton Post author

      Nothing cost more then free shit and she’ll be better for it in the end

      I’ll slow down the ridding when the summer hits….. less time on the bike, more time on the boat. Sort of. Hard to keep the kids out there when the sun gets going

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    2. theshadowedknight

      Careful about sending your girls to college. The shit I am seeing go on around me is bad, and it is amazing what is acceptable. That is just from what some of the girls there say openly. Who knows what they get up to and keep secret.

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      1. Ame

        theshadowedknight
        May 10, 2020 at 3:40 pm
        Careful about sending your girls to college. The shit I am seeing go on around me is bad, and it is amazing what is acceptable. That is just from what some of the girls there say openly. Who knows what they get up to and keep secret.

        thank you for your concern and admonition and for taking the time to share this with me. i am very grateful that my Oldest is doing online school. she’s a pure introvert and very disciplined, so this format works great for her. my Aspie-Girl, when she gets there (at least a year away), that is another story, and we’ll have to make some very hard choices.

      2. theshadowedknight

        The situation is so bad I have completely abandoned searching for a girl on campus. All of the good girls get snatched up right away if they are lucky, and join in the debauchery alongside the bad girls if not. You may not want to send her to college at all, at least on-campus, and probably not even then. It is so bad that you wouldn’t believe. I was shocked that it had gotten so bad, and it takes a lot to shock me.

      3. Ame

        theshadowedknight
        May 10, 2020 at 5:59 pm
        The situation is so bad I have completely abandoned searching for a girl on campus. All of the good girls get snatched up right away if they are lucky, and join in the debauchery alongside the bad girls if not. You may not want to send her to college at all, at least on-campus, and probably not even then. It is so bad that you wouldn’t believe. I was shocked that it had gotten so bad, and it takes a lot to shock me.

        thank you for sharing; i will heed your advice. if i allow her to take any classes, i will walk her in and drop her off and pick her up outside the door. i don’t think she’ll be going that route as it’s not something that she will do well in or benefit from. i still often feel lost as to how to guide her … lots of prayer.

        apparently Oldest’s school has some form of a social media type forum for students. i asked her early on if she was going to participate, and she said, “No. That defeats the purpose of online school so I don’t have to see anyone!”

        – – –

        i’m guessing you’re a professor?

        i’m very disheartened to learn it’s sooo debase. i went to a ”christian” college in the 80’s. ha!

      4. theshadowedknight

        No, I am a student right now. That is how I hear of these things. Keep my head in the books and I fade into the background. I listen, I hear, and I say little. The girls speak aloud of things they have done that would damn near make a sailor blush.

        Do you not remember me? I used to be active here on Ton’s blog and elsewhere. I stepped away for a while due to school, but I am back now.

      5. Ame

        theshadowedknight
        May 10, 2020 at 6:41 pm
        No, I am a student right now. That is how I hear of these things. Keep my head in the books and I fade into the background. I listen, I hear, and I say little. The girls speak aloud of things they have done that would damn near make a sailor blush.

        Do you not remember me? I used to be active here on Ton’s blog and elsewhere. I stepped away for a while due to school, but I am back now.

        yes, i remember you … just didn’t know your story 🙂 … i remember you are well respected by the men.

        The girls speak aloud of things they have done that would damn near make a sailor blush.

        that is heartbreaking. there is no longer any shame. society and culture encourage them to boldly share their shameful deeds without remorse, and the church practically gushes over itself to ‘forgive’ and ‘forget’ without evidence of repentance.

        No, I am a student right now. That is how I hear of these things. Keep my head in the books and I fade into the background. I listen, I hear, and I say little.

        wisdom.

        “say little” reminds me of my Oldest growing up. that girl had a mouth on her. i often told her she’d better get that under control or someone somewhere would do it for her … i remember telling her often her mouth would get her into real trouble someday if she didn’t control it. since i haven’t even thought of that in many years, she has heeded my advice (thank You, Jesus!).

      6. theshadowedknight

        Yeah, all in all it is crazy. Some of the younger men privately confide in me that they view their contemporaries with contempt. Its not a great place for women. It encourages their worst behaviors, inhibits or discourages good behavior, and prevents realistic feedback from their peers. Unless you have a man lined up for them, don’t send them to school.

      7. Ame

        theshadowedknight – wise advice. i’ve been on the fence about Aspie-Girl, anyway, so now i’ll steer her in a different direction.

        curious … what other options would you recommend for young women where marriage is not an option right now?

      8. theshadowedknight

        Depends on why marriage is not an option right now. Advice depends on goals, just as form follows function. I need to know what you want for her before I start giving advice. If you want to keep it private, just ask Ton for my contact info.

      9. theshadowedknight

        Short list, study things that make her a good wife later. Teach her to cook, how to sew, how to clean; the lost practical arts. Teach her to host, to balance a budget; make sure she can run a house. Make sure she has a healthy weight and good taste in clothing.

        If she has a type of man in mind, find out what those men need in a wife and make sure she learns it. An engineer will have different needs than a soldier will, and businessmen will have separate needs still. Learn the culture of those types of men she likes, and teach her to appeal to them.

      10. theshadowedknight

        Course its good advice. How else would I get to use my five favorite words?

        Also, if you want to get them married, you have to bring them to where the men are at. The future belongs to those who show up for it. If they never show up and meet men, then they are never going to be able to put those skills to use.

      11. theshadowedknight

        In all seriousness, I don’t envy you the task ahead of you. If you have two girls coming of age right now, you are in a rough spot. Its a mess out there and I am well acquainted with how bad it is, having been searching for a woman for years, now. All the decent girls are either early enrollment highschoolers who haven’t had the opportunity to go wild or get snatched up by a man early, in freshman year. By senior year there is a lot of wreckage and detritus. You have a lot of work to do. Good luck, and God bless.

  3. thedeti

    Can’t believe I’m going to write this, but…

    Thoroughly research and find out which countries have extradition treaties with the USA that do not cover domestic relationship duties and/or tax-related crimes.

    Almost all foreign nations have extradition treaties with the USA for felonies involving crimes against the person, the biggies (homicide, rape, statutory rape, armed robbery) and the big property crimes (arson, embezzling lots of money). But, a lot of countries will not extradite for things like owing alimony, child support, or back taxes. Many countries will not extradite for them; they’re considered small potatoes. Failure to pay alimony and child support are not crimes; they become so only through criminal contempt of court. The crime is not failure to pay; the “crime” is disobeying a court order.

    Billionaire financier Marc Rich didn’t pay taxes. His indictment at the time was the biggest tax evasion case in US history. Rich moved to Switzerland to avoid prosecution. The Swiss would not extradite him. He on occasion traveled in Britain, Germany and Jamaica; all of which tried to capture him and would have extradited him had they found and detained him. Rich was never tried on the crimes; he never returned to the US despite being pardoned in early 2001.

    The point is if you go to the right countries, you can avoid extradition.

    Just sayin’.

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    1. SFC Ton Post author

      That’s why I said contact lawyers in the nation state you are interested in. There are places out there who won’t consider a man taking his kids as kidnapping so they won’t ship your ass back. Of course there are many more who will

      And yeah I didn’t really explain how contempt of court works . Thank you

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      1. thedeti

        yeah but the point is with contempt of court, for extradition purposes, most countries will conclude “um, just contempt of a US court? Big deal. Why are we going to extradite for that?”

      2. h0neyc0mb

        They won’t .. or so I’ve been told.

        ..
        ..

        PSA time .. for all you men

        Now’s the time, as a man, to investigate and learn all you can.

        And keep it a secret .. learn how if you don’t already know.

        Because soon we will build a wall .. but it’ll be meant to keep you in.

        Act accordingly.

  4. Ame

    Because soon we will build a wall .. but it’ll be meant to keep you in.

    Act accordingly.

    okay … that freaks me out.

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    1. h0neyc0mb

      Been saying it for about ten years now ..

      But now it may not be necessary because everyone seems happy following whatever (unlawful) order they are instructed to follow. It is of couese for your own good.

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  5. ‘Reality’ Doug

    The unflinching pursuit of objective truth in this post and its comments are wonderful. Too bad I am surprised to observe it for it’s rarity. I wish I had any professional skills to leverage. The most expensive things are free: true that. Family. Ha. My parents raised me for ‘free’ and I’m still paying. I won’t blather about it. It wouldn’t be constructive or strategic. Deeds indeed. To civilized freedom, and fuck the flossy animals feigning its manifestation.

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      1. ‘Reality’ Doug

        Given my track record the past 50+ you would be wrong. I unknowningly had my chance and chased defeat. I have done nothing by try to get marketable skills the past ten years and failed miserably. The skills that matter going forward are not economic and my body is not what it used to be. Ce la vie. Could be that you are just pain a better man than me. With non-hostile parents I think I would have been a man of affairs myself. I depend on them now. And I know you don’t wanna hear it and don’t believe it, etc. Psychological abuse by two skilled adults in the privacy of their own home is a damage hard to imagine. My people skills have improved greatly and still suck. As they say, everything was a lie. I can’t chase human shit effectively and realize my path must be less than agreeable with the world. It has been paying off in the sense of limiting the figurative bleeding. It’s a less than zero sum game. I forge pathetically across and against the grain, but I know I am thinking in front of the wave of history and not living behind it and looking backward at old rules. If I knew 20 or 30 years ago what I know now. Like I said, unflinching truth.

      1. theshadowedknight

        Still sucks. Only a year left, and I’ll be done by next May. I cannot wait to get done and get to work. How are you and the family?

      2. SFC Ton Post author

        Both my man!
        I’m up to 5 of my own, the two older kids and 3 youngins

        I’ve also pretty much retired. Months in the hospital forced my hand on that one. I field a lot of calls but only go into the plant for major sales meetings…. 2-3 times a month. Max

        Still doing the math nerd program at school?

      3. theshadowedknight

        Sorry to hear about the medical problems. I know how much fun hospitals are, and how useful the VA is most of the time.

        Engineering; I’m not that much of a nerd to study just math. Yeah, still going at it and getting close. About a year, give or take, and I’m done. I cannot wait.

        Girl front is a wasteland at this point. Now that I’m a senior my options are the castoffs from three years of college–the ones no one else wanted. Thats a hard no, so I’m resigned to waiting until I graduate to find a girl. Might have to dip out of America and find something else.

      4. SFC Ton Post author

        I don’t use the VA. The upside to having a few dollar bills

        Didn’t know engineers studied stuff beyond math

        Chemical?

      5. theshadowedknight

        Chemical engineering, yeah. Lots of math, but also practical stuff like costs of equipment. How to run a plant, but also keep it profitable. Safety is big, because our mistakes are usually explosive and always expensive.

        Thats my goal, too. Get enough money I can afford to go someplace outside the US and pay an expert to find out whats wrong and fix it. In the meantime, they got me a pretty sweet knee brace that keeps me on my feet.

      6. theshadowedknight

        Yeah, if need be. I’d rather stay and fight, but he who fights and runs away…

      7. theshadowedknight

        Fight to save what is left of my people. If I have to run, then fight to destroy everything behind me.

        My family helped bring America into existence, and it would only be fitting to be there to take it out.

      8. SFC Ton Post author

        Or you could be in the Czech Republic, drinking beer and drilling another baby shadow knight into a hot ass blonde chick

      9. theshadowedknight

        Absolutely. I would love to start a family, and if that means I have to abandon America, then so be it. Any culture that does not provide its men a way to secure their future does not deserve them.

        How are the Czech girls? Compared to American girls, I mean.

      1. Ame

        very glad you’re okay and life is good and your family is okay … grrr to the ‘law’ on the streets 😦 … was hoping you were out on the sea fishing or riding somewhere 🙂

      2. SFC Ton Post author

        Can’t do that
        One day I will stand before God and my forefathers.

        Don’t want either to turn their backs on me. Not to mention I have sons who need to learn what it means to be a man and honor your ancestors

      3. Ame

        i’m honored to know you from afar now … wish i knew you irl, but we’ll meet irl on the other side someday (hopefully a long time from now).

        if only there were more men like you in this world. may your sons and grandsons make you and God, and the rest of us, proud.

      4. Ame

        you have taught me much – i’ve integrated it into my life and turn around and share it with others.

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